2018 is the year of self reliance

I just recently did one of my rants on my Snapchat and it got the wheels turning in my head. Why do we rely on others opinions to feel validated within ourselves ? This is something that we all have or will struggle with at some point during our life. That is giving someone else way to much power over you. I used this reference during my rant and it really resonated with me.

Take a second and think about this situation. So let’s say that life is like a game of musical chairs. So in this game the main purpose is to ensure that you have a seat by the time that music cuts off. So your partaking in this game of musical chairs going around chair after chair in hopes you’ll land in one but when the music cuts off all of your friends are sitting in chairs and you’re not. Now that is just like Life simply because the chairs can represent numerous opportunities that pass us by on a daily basis that we don’t take advantage of because of several reasons. Maybe we didn’t put in enough effort or maybe we did but that opportunity just wasn’t meant for us. It’s okay for something not to be for you. You’re walking around the chairs over and over again represents you weighing out your options and your decision making. Life presents us with the opportunity to make all of the decisions and have to be willing to live with whatever consequences come with said decision.

Another way to look at this analogy of musical chairs is you’re playing the game, walking around the chairs and the music stops and you and your friend both land in the chair and they push you out so that they can stay in the game. That is symbolic because in life the people that you would hold on sometimes won’t do the same in return for you. They’ll let you fall and fail. This is where the importance of being self reliant comes into play. It’s human nature for someone else’s actions to naturally affect you but it shouldn’t end you indefinitely. You need to find the strength within yourself that you will and can be good on you own no matter what you might encounter in your life. May 2018 be filled with challenges, positivity, good times and experiences and most importantly self reliance.

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9 thoughts on “2018 is the year of self reliance

  1. I’m noticing around the ‘net, many people are encouraging others to focus on themselves more so they can be encouraged to live their best life. This is more confirmation to me how important it is to focus on self in order to better serve others. I like the musical chairs example because situations truly play out that way for many of us. Thank you for shining a light on this subject. Great post! XoXo

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  2. “It’s human nature for someone else’s actions to naturally affect you but it shouldn’t end you indefinitely. You need to find the strength within yourself that you will and can be good on you own no matter what you might encounter in your life.” MIC DROP! Nothing else needs to be said.

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  3. Yessss to everything in this post. I definitely used to let the opinions of others make me feel validated. I’ve gotten to the point of validating myself though lol. As long as I’m healthy and happy with the things I do then that’s all that truly matters. At the end of the day, if we let the opinions of others dictate how we live life then we may end up living a very sad life.

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  4. I love your analogy to musical chairs. It is so true. You have to remember that in the end, you have to have your own back first & understand not everyone will feel the same as you do, and if they don’t, you can’t let it bring you down. Love this post.

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